Hi Bernard,
Forgot to ask you this that day.There's another guy who seemed to show some interest in me.He is more capable and more highly educated.
What do you think of his marriage/relationship luck as compared to my current boyfriend(sorry don't know his time of birth)?

Geng Geng Xin
Chen Zi You
Thanks again

Har

Hi har,

Here come your 三心兩意 hahaha.. But I think you are very smart and since it is a life time investment there is no harm to be more meticulous in selecting the best model.

As you cannot provide the time of birth I can only base on his 3 Pillars. Coincidentally both have same problem in which spouse may not spend enough time at home. Well this could be due to the problem of modern career women in our present society. This guy DM and your DM indicate a below average happiness. Also you will love him more than he loves you.

Except for the above there are no other serious relationship problems.

Bernard

Not 三心兩意 lah.Actually I have known him for years and we are very close.Was actually waiting for him to make the first move but he never did...no wonder you say I love him more.Once I misunderstood the girl with him was his new girlfriend ,so I accepted the present one (Ding Fire).Later I found out that she was just his housemate.
Compatibility of DM is only a small part of compatibility,isn't it?How to see his wife spends less time at home? Will his DW in Grave give any problem relationship-wise?
Be patient with my many questions, Bernard.Like you said,lifetime decision!
Finally, my million dollar question..if you were me and given a choice...which one would you choose??

Hi har,

You lighted up my Sunday hahaha…. Very interesting indeed.

I agreed with you that compatibility of DM is just a part of compatible. The most important is still to look at the spouse palace. A spouse palace is best to be free from encumbrances, which means no clashes and combination. When there is a combination in the spouse palace there is a tendency that the spouse is being taken away by friends or other commitments. As such her heart will not be at home and her duty as a wife will be greatly affected. If will be worse if it is a seasonal or harmony combination with transformation approved. Majority will end up in divorce case.

His spouse star is hidden inside the Chen Dragon graveyard branch which is the ending season of Spring so we can decode that his spouse may have a weak health. We can also decode that since it is hidden in a graveyard branch this guy may not like to show or present his wife infront of his friends.

Wow…I think you are giving me a billion dollars rather than a million question hahaha… How am I going to answer your this question. Why not I put it this way since you have knowledge in bazi, you should know their forward decade luck cycle. I will leave it to you to make your own decision. Please also remember that bazi is only one-third of the Cosmic of Trinity.


Bernard

Hi Bernard,
I know bazi is only one-third.That's why I said " IF"only .
Haha..who knows Geng metal guy has another Spouse star at hour stem.
You indirectly answered my "billion- dollar" question...
Thanks for your answers.

Har

Hi I need help. I recently have been back and forth in a relationship with my daughters father. I never thought i would ever even look at another man. Now I have this new man in my life. I am so confused and not sure what to do.
my DOB is 6-17-77 born at 1108 pm in san Juan PR i currently live in FL
my daughters father DOB 4-11-1984 born 755 am in Santiago De Cuba
the new guy born sept 28th 1975 in GA not sure what time he was born

Anyhow I really like this new guy. I do love my ex but I finally feel like someone makes me feel special. This new guy we have been talking for days. Yesterday and today we havent communicated and now I am somewhat scared because i let him in somewhat and i am afraid of getting hurt again.

PLEASE HELP
I AM TORN

thanks

Bernard,Bernard..need your advice again.
There's another guy who was after me when I was 17 but I felt we were too young at that time for any serious relationship.Recently we met again and have been in contact.Just realised his Day Pillar is the same as my current boyfriend.His d.o.b is 1981(time unknown).
Can you please,please help me see his relationship and bazi luck?
Thanks.

Har

Hi har,

Without taking the Hour Pillar into consideration this is a “BMW” model. Coming and forward decade luck cycle is very favorable to him. But best it to confirm the Hour of birth as his chart could fall under the “Follow the Leader category”. If that is the case then it could turn from BMW to Proton Saga.


Bernard

Hi Bernard,
Lucky this time you didn't mention I am 三心兩意.I also think he is a BMW model from his past luck.I am more concerned about his relationship luck than wealth luck woh.He had 2 girlfriends since I rejected him ( student days)till now but they never last.Is it because of his lack of Direct wealth?
Thanks
Har

Hi har,

Hahaha….no lah, I won’t say that again. Since this is a life time affair I support you in selecting the best model. There is no major clash in his spouse palace except a blocked self punishment which is insignificant.

If a person doesn’t have Direct Wealth Star then you can use the Indirect Wealth Star as spouse star. I think his surrounding people find it difficult to read his mind and this may result in some communication problem with his friends.

There is another thing in which I left out. Sitting in his spouse palace is his nobleman star so his spouse shall be good looking and will bring him good luck once he is married.

So what are you waiting for? He doesn’t know how to go after girls so it is better for you to make your move instead. hehehe…


Bernard

Hi Bernard,
Ya, I saw his two noble stars and scholar stars.He is doing his PHd now.Problem is he likes to boast and talk nonsense..I suppose that's what puts people off.I was also wondering whether the Anxiety and solitary stars in his bazi is also causing him to remain unattach till now.
Why do you say people don't understand him..how did you see that?Care to impart some knowledge to this novice?
Thanks
Har

Hi har,

As you know Eating God Star is an extrovert and long term planning star and this star is best to be hidden rather than protrude at the Stem. Stars that protrude at the Stem show the first impression we have of a person and also their most obvious personality and character traits. Thus such a person will upon first contact, project an introverted personality which will make the surrounding people difficult to understand or read his mind.

However since you said that he like to talk nonsense then there could be a high possibility of a Hurting Officer Star in the Stem of his Hour Pillar. This could also form a Hurting Officer and Eating God Star in confusion.

Person with such a formation will exhibit sign of an internalized confusion or almost like a split personality. One is in a forceful, argumentative character and another introspective, non-confrontational personality. He does not know what he wants and is constantly changing his position or thoughts on a given situation. He thinks and act in an extremely disorganized and chaotic manner that ends up being destructive to his work performance or communication with those around him.


Bernard

Hi Bernard,
Thanks for your teaching..took me some time to digest.I shouldn't say he talk nonsence but maybe it should be talk "big"..boastful.He is quite popular with his bosses and even in school many teachers like him
Har

Hi Bernard,
Sorry to trouble you again.This time it's not my problem.It's about children not love.I am lazy to start another thread,in case you don't happen to read it.
I have another friend also from the interiors.She doesn't know her birth time.Married many years but no children.Husband went to see a doctor and doc says he has NO sperm.Now wife is contemplating IVF(maybe sperm donor)but she wants to know whether her own chart has any problems before going through all the trouble and what can she do the fengshui way to help.Al I know is her chart is too dry and hot.
Hope it's not too much to ask your help.
Her bazi
Yi Wu Wu
Chou Wu Wu

Har

Hi har,

Don't worry and I will try my best.

If you look at her chart she has output element which represent her children but unfortunately her Day Master is too weak. We assume that there is also no water element in the Hour Pillar to support her DM and her DM is solely depending on the Chou Ox Earth hidden sub qi Gui Water which is very weak to nourish her Yi Wood. Then again Chou Ox Earth is sitting next to 2 Wu Fire and I think the hidden Gui Water will dry up by these two Fire.

When Fire is strong and the chart is hot her DM is going to suffer and drain by the strong Fire. Since her DM is under pressure she is too weak to conceive. However these two years is Water Qi and this year her chart opened the Chen Dragon Water storage pot to release the Water but at the same time her Chou Ox Metal storage pot was also opened. With Metal being released she may experience surgical procedure.

Strong Water will be able to control the Fire and support her DM but as her Wood is too weak it may also float. Luckily her present decade luck is well supported by Wood which will help to strengthen her DM. This will increase her chances and it is worth to take the chance especially this year if she is willing.

As usual I will advise her to clear any heavy storage and clutter at the West2 sector of her house and room. Hope this could help her further and increase her chance to conceive. Also if her IVF is successful please advise her to avoid sleeping in the North and southeast room this year and for next year SW and Center of the house.

Hope this could help and I wish her success and good luck


Bernard

Hi Bernard,
My friend managed to get her birth time .Her hour pillar is Jia-Shen
.Does it change your presription although i think Jia sitting of geng Metal is not much help? Will cooling food help her conceive -TCM?

Her husband is Bing Wu Bing Wu. Is his infertility due to his two "child star" in grave or also because of his dry and hot chart?
Chen Shen Chen Wu



I noticed both of them have FU Yin in their charts.Does this in any way affect their fertility?
Waiting for you EXPERT opinion..hehe

Har

Husb is Bing Wu Bing Wu
Chen Shen Chen Wu

Hi har,

Thanks for the additional information. I don’t think there is much influence to my initial comment. Her Hour Pillar of Jia Shen is not helping her much as Jia Wood without root is sitting below the Shen Metal. There is only slight improvement in her Water element since Shen is a Water growth branch. As I have mentioned she is lucky to enter into her Wood decade luck which help to strengthen her DM.

You are right her husband Influence star is very weak and hidden in the graveyard branch of Chen which is also the ending season of Spring.

If your friend is serious to do the IVF then she should take advantage of her supporting element this year.

Bernard

Thanks a lot Bernard.
Hopefully there'll be some good news in future like Jeffery and his wife(natural conception somemore).

Har

Hi again, Bernard,
I have some fengshui queries which I hope you can clarify.
I am searching for a house to buy and saw one the other day which is quite reasonably priced and in a favorable location.
However, I realised there's a toilet in the downstairs South West sector.
I read in some sites that that is the Marriage sector and having a toilet there is not good.How true is this theory and is there any way to alleviate it?Do you think i should go ahead with the purchase or look for another one?
Thanks in advance.

Har